What Jennifer Lopez Has Shared About Exes Marc Anthony, Ben Affleck and More

And the singer has learned a thing or two from her spins around the block.

“If you’re the one who’s being heartbroken, you’re the winner,” she continued. “Because if you go around your life and you’re breaking hearts…you’re the loser.”

While Lopez acknowledges she’s “been on both sides,” she feels like she’s grown the most when she’s the one left drowning her sorrows.

“I just feel like the biggest growth spurts I’ve had emotionally, mentally, psychologically have always come from a heartbreak—and that’s not just in romantic relationships,” she explained. “That’s in work heartbreaks—all of it.”

Mainly because, “It’s the only time you dig,” the Hustlers star added. “You’re like, ‘What the f–k happened? How do I do this? Why do I keep doing this? Or why didn’t that happen? What could I have done better?’ You change yourself completely.”