Girl Threatens to Break Up with Boyfriend of 6 Years If He Would not Suggest by Finish of the 12 months. Now She Is Getting Nervous

Marriage is about two people aligning their hopes for the future, but when timelines drift apart, even the strongest relationships can begin to crack.

A recent Reddit post captures this quiet heartbreak, as one woman questions whether she’s justified in ending things if her long-term boyfriend doesn’t propose by the end of the year.

“So I (f27) and my bf (m28) have been together ~5/6 years,” she wrote in a recent post. After dating for so long, moving in together, and planning a future, an engagement seemed like the natural next step.

At the beginning of the year, the Reddit user told her boyfriend that she wanted to be engaged by the end of 2025, and if not, she would break up with him.

It wasn’t an ultimatum created out of impatience, but rather about her emotional needs. “I feel like I made it clear I was being serious and he seemed receptive to it,” she shared, noting that he even “wrote it out as a goal for this year.”

But months later, the goal still felt distant. Despite his talk of consulting married friends about rings, his actions told another story.

“I have showed him the types of styles I like and various different shops at a variety of price points,” she revealed. Yet each suggestion was met with resistance.

The rings were always either “too cheap” or “way too expensive.” Even when she found sales, his enthusiasm faded quickly.

“He will discuss and be interested with me for a few minutes then nothing,” she wrote.

Recently, hints about money have deepened her doubts.

“He has said that Christmas will look different this year because he won’t have a lot to buy gifts.. which is fine, a little disappointing but i understand,” she added. “Then last week he says he’s pretty short on money when I mentioned an upcoming sale on a ring site we’ve visited recently.”

However, she pointed out that he “makes GOOD money” and has “plenty of time to plan.” She noted that she’s not asking for extravagance – just effort.

“The closer we get to the end of the year the more and more upset I get because I don’t believe he is going to propose and that will be it for us,” she wrote.

As the year draws to a close, her frustration has turned to sadness. “I truly don’t feel like a priority in our relationship anymore and this feels like confirmation,” she confessed. “Would I be the a—— if I break up with him if he doesn’t propose by the end of the year?”

For many readers, her post reflected a deeper truth: that love alone isn’t always enough when one person stops showing up for the future they promised to build together.

“He is dragging his feet. He doesn’t want to marry you,” one user commented. “You say you would be happy with a ‘poprock ring.’ He isn’t even trying, honey.”

“You set a clear boundary and timeline,” another wrote. “If he can’t commit after six years, he’s already answered your question without words.”

However, some readers questioned whether the original poster’s boyfriend was just trying to throw her off by saying he had no money for Christmas, warning that “it might be because he’s got her an engagement ring.”

Another agreed, adding, “I would say give it until the end of the year. It’s very possible he might’ve already bought the ring and might propose around the holidays.”