Rachel Lindsay Will get Candid About Break up From Bryan Abasolo
Rachel Lindsay is sharing new insight into the end of her marriage to Bryan Abasolo.
During the December 2 episode of the Lovett or Leave It podcast, the former Bachelorette spoke to Obama speechwriter Jon Levett about what ultimately led to their split.
“The reasons we broke up — I saw all the things before, but I wanted to have kids and I wanted to be married and I wanted to be loved. It’s like sad, it’s kind of sad,” she admitted.
Lindsay added that her experience mirrors what she’s seen among many women around her.
“I know a lot of women who put their careers first and they look up one day and they want other things for themselves and they don’t have them. And they kind of settle or compromise in ways that they wouldn’t normally do because of their desires.”
Lindsay and Abasolo got engaged on her season of The Bachelorette in 2017 and tied the knot in August of 2019.
The pair’s divorce was finalized on January 7, 2024. According to the settlement, Lindsay will pay the chiropractor, 44, a $500,000 equalization payment. He will keep their Miami condo and 2021 Honda Accord, while Lindsay takes ownership of their Los Angeles home and her 2023 Porsche Macan.
On the January 10 episode of her Higher Learning podcast, Lindsay revealed that the legal process required sacrifices. “I had to make concessions that I didn’t necessarily want to do,” she said. “My peace of mind is priceless at the end of the day. I really want to start rebuilding and I want to move forward… that feels really, really good.”
Although she signed a prenup, Lindsay admitted the ordeal has shifted her outlook on marriage altogether. “I wouldn’t get married without a prenup,” she said. “But… it’s changed my whole perspective on everything. I don’t even know if I would get married again. I can’t even, like, fathom that.”
She went on to describe the emotional toll of the separation. “When someone is fighting and fighting you in this way and willing to die on every hill and not willing to compromise at all… you have to, at one point, let go and just be the bigger person and prioritize what is most important to you,” she said. “Is it most important to be vengeful? … Or is it most important to just protect your peace of mind and let go?”
Lindsay noted that mentally, she had felt the marriage was over long before the paperwork was done. “It’s a very weird feeling because from the moment he finally left the house after being here for seven months post-separation, I felt divorced.”
Abasolo previously acknowledged the split in an Instagram post, writing, “After more than 4 years of marriage, Rachel and I have made the difficult decision to part ways and start anew. My parents have been married forever and I’m a family man, but sometimes loving yourself and your partner means you must let go… Please respect the spaces of our family and friends as we figure out our next steps.”